In other words: we need God.
The fact that motherhood does not come with a detailed handbook, is a truth we know well. Many of us spend a lot of time floundering around trying to figure out how to do this thing. Of course, if we should ever feel that we’ve got it under control, we ought to be ready for a big shake up. Because it’s coming! (You know what I mean.)
Kids come up with the craziest problems. Issues I would have never dreamed up. Stuff I have absolutely no clue how to deal with.
When these issues arise, I try to figure out what to do. How to fix it. What to say and in what way to say it. I ask myself question upon question. How can I help these children grow into decent, civilized adults?! How? What do I do?
In all fray, I forget to talk to God about it.
Now that is just plain silly.
It’s silly that I would forget to talk to the One who created me. The One who created my children. And not only that, the One who decided my children and I would be a good match! He chose them for me and me for them.
My first child came into the world yelling. She yelled all day and all night. I don’t know why. But she did. I remember looking at “easy” babies and wondering what I was doing wrong. Why wouldn’t she stop yelling. I cried from exhaustion when she woke every half hour through the night for the 15th month in a row.
You know what, in some ways I’m grateful for the difficulties.
I know if my baby had been “easy” I would have thought it was because of my own prowess. I would have thought, “Hey, I’m pretty good at this.” Instead, I could only look to heaven and cry out, “Help me! I can’t do this.”
And I still have to do that. I just don’t always remember to. And that’s a shame.
James 1:5 says: “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you”.
I truly believe God is waiting to infuse us with wisdom, to provide support and a listening ear, if we turn to Him.
Thinking we are good enough to handle this job on our own is foolish.
We need to rely on God’s strength, not our own.
I find the answer to so many life questions is often the same: Read the Bible consistently, pray frequently, spend time with godly people who will encourage and support you.
This week let’s be sure to spend time each day asking for strength and wisdom from the One who gives it.
If you are struggling with a child in some area, or just feeling like you don’t know what to do as a mother, tell Him. He knows and cares.
If things are going well, don’t forget to acknowledge Him. All good gifts come from above.
I love you dear mothers who read this series and my prayer is that God will bless you this week as you strive to be the best mother you can be. I am grateful to all who share this road. May we lean on Him and not ourselves.
“The LORD is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in him, and he helps me.”
This is the fifth installment of the Becoming a Better Mother Series.