Peace and Joy at Home {Day 14}: Foster Sibling Relationships

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Our brothers and sisters are there with us from the dawn of our personal stories to the inevitable dusk.

~Susan Scarf Merrell

Siblings have the potential to be our best friends and confidants. Sibling relationships are the ones that help us learn how to get along with others, how to serve, and how to be a good friend.

These relationships developing under our roof need extra care and attention. I don’t pretend to know what is the best way to foster and nurture sibling relationships, in fact, I’m often feel that I’m making all this up as I go along!

Below are a few things I’ve learned so far, about fostering sibling relationships:

Allow them time to spend together

With the myriad of activities available today, it is easy for siblings to be so busy they barely know one another.

It is important to intentionally make time for them to be together. This is one of the reasons we chose to homeschool. But even if you are not a homeschooler, you can still limit extra activities so your children have time to be together. They need unhurried hours to play and talk. Structured and unstructured time are both beneficial.

This time together enables them to know one another and to strengthen the bond between them. It also aids their future relationshps as they learn to how to get along.

If you want to know how your girl will treat you after marriage, just listen to her talking to her little brother.

~Sam Levenson

Let them work together

Have you ever worked alongside someone through a difficult task? If you have, you know it has the potential to strengthen the bond between you.

Let the kids work hard to clean a room, create a welcome home sign for daddy, set the table for dinner, or make a meal. Yes, tension often arises during these situations, but what better way for them to learn how to compromise and get along than in the safety of their own home?

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Teach them to protect each other

My wonderful mother-in-law talked to my kids about how important it is to look out for one another. I hadn’t thought much about this (the kids were still young) but I am so grateful she taught us this worthy trait.

It’s important for kids to know that it is not okay to blurt out their siblings secrets. If brother is struggling with an issue, that is family business, not fodder for teasing or general conversation.

Make this a big deal.

Talk to them about how they will be tempted to share things about their siblings that are not theirs for the sharing and discuss what they could do in those situations.

A sibling may be the keeper of one’s identity, the only person with the keys to one’s unfettered, more fundamental self.

~Marian Sandmaier

Help them implement the Golden Rule

I think many parents aim to teach their children to treat others the way the want to be treated. It’s a wonderful thing and I’m glad for it.

I don’t have any extra tips, I just know it is a valuable lesson for kids (and adults) to learn to look out for the needs of others.

Teaching kids to see their siblings are made by God will help them develop care and concern in their relationship. (Of course, this takes a lot of guidance from mom and dad! Whisper in their ear or take them aside and tell them how much sister would enjoy it if they did so and so. Smile in delight when they do such things.

Be sure to praise them when you see them being kind to their siblings. Especially when they give up something they want to do for the sake of the other person.

What do you do to foster and nurture sibling relationships in your home? Please tell me, I really want to know!

 

Today the High Five Moms are sharing about fostering sibling relationships. See what they have to say by following the links below:

 

 

 

Comments

  1. I love what you wrote about teaching your kids to protect each other. I’m going to begin teaching that – so good! Love it Stacy! :)

  2. I loved this post and all the quotes you used too! I guess I’ve never really thought intentionally about how to foster good relationships between my kids…I think I do some of these things without thinking about it, but I’m definitely going to be more intentional about it now and using some of your ideas. Thanks so much!

    • Thanks so much, Krissa. I certainly feel that I have no idea what I am doing half the time. But I do believe it is good to be intentional about these relationships. A good sibling is a wonderful gift!

      Blessings to you ;)

  3. Really educational looking ahead to visiting again.

  4. I struggle with how to help my kids manage their fights. I’m an only child and so don’t understand the need to fight about everything. It’s so stressful for me! But I am trying to give them opportunities to work together. I try to step out of their play and negotiations because I don’t want to appear to be picking sides or always favoring one over another. I just hope they grow up loving each other and figuring out how to work together.

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